New Year & New Life 2009

Posted in Blogroll, blogging, bravery, family, life, new york city, positive thinking, rhode island with tags on January 3, 2009 by prettylittlemess

So, I’m back from a really wonderful trip home to Rhode Island. Christmas was splendid and my birthday was “rockin”. Complete with a very badass and beautiful chinese symbol tattoo meaning “life force”. Yep, it was a very good trip.

In fact…

…it was so good i have decided to move home to Rhode Island. It’s been a long 11 years here in beautiful NYC but the time has come for me to prepare for the journey home. Where there is family and friends and creative prospects that never existed there 11 years prior.

I am ecstatic.

There are a few key bits I must take care of first before I can pack up and haul ass home, like, getting my expired driver’s license back. And saving money for a car. And finding a job.

All completely doable and completely possible. I mean hell, I packed up and moved to NYC with close to nothing. No reason I can’t do it in reverse.

I feel so happy, sort of dreamlike about this somewhat surreal decision. But I know it’s right. And that’s all that matters right now.

message in a bottle

Posted in life on December 22, 2008 by prettylittlemess

i just put a message in a bottle. we shall see what the seas return.

And just like that…

Posted in Blogroll, blogging, life, new york city with tags on December 22, 2008 by prettylittlemess

…truth is an amazing thing. How it sets you free. Answers all the questions. Puts all the puzzle pieces together. Helps you see the forest through the trees. How it actually can fill you with a HUGE sigh of relief. How it immediately frees you from blame or regret or worry or overthinking.

I have no more questions because the truth just gave me all the answers.

Lucky Snow

Posted in life with tags , , on December 20, 2008 by prettylittlemess

I’m very lucky to live 20 minutes from Grand Central station via the 7 train and still have this outside my door…

Snow & Stuff

Posted in Blogroll, baggage, blogging, christmas, friends, happiness, heartache, life, love, new york city, rhode island with tags , , on December 19, 2008 by prettylittlemess

I skipped a day of blogging yesterday. Amazing. I guess with the holiday crashing down upon me, i’m too busy frantically searching for presents, wrapping them and hoping they pass the test of “oh i love it! no really!”

And it’s snowing. That always distracts me from any stress and thrusts me into happy happy mode. For the most part…

But…

…it’s been an interesting week to say the least. Work has been hideous, I mean up to the eyes in crappy work to do. Ah well, i guess i’m not different than many other poor people slavin’ away for another dollar another day.

Plus it’s how i am buying all these presents.

I guess I have not blogged because I feel sort of quiet. I think I’ve spewed enough emotional luggage at everyone out there in the blog-o-sphere (that’s not to say there won’t be more). My heart is fine, it’s all healed up, only a minor scar to report this time around. As my mother has always said “kid you need to make sure you got a spring on that ass”. Meaning, if you get knocked down, you don’t have time to stay down, you got to “spring” back up. So I guess that rule is supposed to apply to my emotional strength…and boy is it  a bitch sometimes…but I think my spring has sprung. Anyway, enough about that, don’t feel like sharing much more. No one hates a pity party more than me. I mean I REALLY hate them. As in…”See the chip on that shoulder, get rid of it before I slam it to the floor for ya.” Yep, i’m not a pity party girl.

I head home next week for the holidays. For the most part, I’m expecting some very fun times and I’m bringing a camera. I’d like to preserve some of the highlights that will be this trip (ie me getting my 2nd tat on my bday!)

I’ve also realized this week how lucky I am to have the few good friends that I have. It seems when ever I get knocked down, it’s always the same people coming around to help prop me back up. And that’s something I wrestle with cause like I just said, I was raised to do it myself. No help needed. But now I see that isn’t necessarily true. So consider this a big, ginormous thank you to those good buds of mine that are making sure I don’t question my judgement. That I don’t question my naturally positive nature. My judgement and nature is just fine. It’s this naive trust in people that is a problem. A huge problem. Over and over.

Alas, i’ve still got alot of work to do in terms of that. But for now, it’s Christmas & my bday & new years & its snowing…and I’m happy, plenty happy about all of that.

We’ll save the psycho babble for ‘09.

Man in the Moon

Posted in life, new york city with tags , on December 18, 2008 by prettylittlemess

Tonight, the most amazing moon crept out from behind the clouds and through the trees. My camera is not the best, but I had to try to capture it…

moon

All Light

Posted in Blogroll, blogging, life, new york city with tags , , , , on December 17, 2008 by prettylittlemess

I am supposed to be working. I have a crapload of stuff to finish before I run away on Christmas holiday, however, the urge to blog has hit me full force. So, onwards and upwards we go…

All Light. It is impossible. It is impossible to be all light all the time. It’s impossible to shine like a diamond and twinkle like a star all the time. It can break a person, a quick snap like a twig under foot. One minute all light, one minute the brightness has burned itself up in an atmosphere it can’t possibly exist in. Earth tips on her axis, Jupiter shatters, Venus hides, the Sun implodes, the dipper fails to dip without a full on fall. It is impossible to keep the light, all light, all the time. The diamond has a flaw. A yellowed flaw that is hidden beneathe the blinding sparkles that protect it. It is not possible to keep together under such pressure, no matter how hard a diamond may be.  No matter how bright the star, it’s out there all by itself, shining, while people look up and stare and ooh and ahhh…but it’s up there, a zillion miles away from the people that are admiring it, or speaking sweetly of it.

It is impossible to be All Light. Impossible. There is a shift in the atmosphere, this is a realization stuttering its way into a full on sentence.  No stops. A transformation from what was and has always been since age 6 to the now.

All Light.

It’s a wonderful thing to be, but its time to pass this burdenous torch.

80’s Mu-zack

Posted in Blogroll, blogging, happiness, life, new york city with tags , , , , , on December 16, 2008 by prettylittlemess

I have spent the entire day at work rockin’ out to 80’s music with the occasional intermission of iceberg techno tunage. But mostly 80’s and mostly, wow, how much do i love to get all nostalgic? I was swinging the gammit of retro emotions…and it is astounding to me how an action or a moment can be linked to a song (or even a scent). Even months, years later. Astounding. Some say we are the sum of our experiences, I’m not sure that’s entirely true, but if it is, then I would like to make a soundtrack to my life from the beginning to now.

In fact, that sounds like a perfect project for my new I-pod (xmas gift from family, yes i’m behind the times…blablabla…)

Oh, and it’s a definate…the tattoo happens on my birthday. Woohoo! It’s time for this addition and I feel 100% about it. No second guesses.

I’m feeling very sure about many things today, very sure. And that usually means no regrets. And that makes me most happy.

Now…off to Christmas shop…again…in the snow!

Christmas Angel Betty

Posted in Blogroll, blogging, christmas, life, new york city with tags , , , , , , on December 15, 2008 by prettylittlemess

Tonight when i stepped off the train at my stop, there stood , at the top of the four levels worth of stairs, a little elderly lady with one of those little metal carts. Her little tiny old lady head was wrapped in a blue scarf. She was hunched over the cart. People just kept passing her by. I stopped. Because I couldn’t not stop. I was supposed to help her. I knew it.

I approached her slowly as to not startle her. I didn’t want to get smacked in the head by a big black purse.

“Excuse me, would you like some help with the cart?”

“Ohhh, yes please. thank you. You see, no one stops.”

It then occurred to me…how LONG had she been standing there? How many 7 trains had rushed by her? How many hoards of people had avoided her gaze and left it to someone else to help her?

I took the cart and went down the first two levels. I looked back up and there she was…taking one step at a time. Slowly, very slowly. Holding on to the railing with both hands, side stepping it to the bottom. Once she was down she looked at me…

“Oh thank you.”

“Well, here….let me take it down the last two levels…we aren’t there yet. Ok?”

She smiled.

“Your a God send. My angel tonight.”

Then she stared at the metal turn styles that were still keeping us in. I could see she was puzzled. I wondered how often she went out like this that the subway exits would look so foreign to her.

“Let’s go through the door, the alarm will sound, but so what”. I smiled. “We’ll be rebels.”

She started to laugh and said “What ever you say!”

I suddenly had a feisty partner in crime.

We got to the second set of stairs that led us out.

“I’ll take the cart down and meet you at the bottom.”

This next level turned and she wouldn’t be able to see me at the base until she turned the corner. I wanted to be clear I wasn’t making a run for it with her red metal cart.

“Ok….this may take me a minute or two more. These are steep. I have to look at the wall, not down.”

She started to hold the metal railing and take her first step. Then she stopped and looked up at me.

“What’s your name?”

I told her.

“I’m Betty.” she said.

“Nice to meet you Betty.”

“Ok, let’s do this.” she said and I started laughing.

I met her at the bottom of the stairs. About three minutes later she rounded the corner.

“Hiya Betty!” I said, acting like we were old friends.

She laughed and paused for a break.

“Your movin’ quicker on this flight I think Betty.” I teased.

“Ya think?” her eyes were a bold blue and literally twinkled.

Two minutes later she was at the base. I handed the red cart back over to her. She took my hand.

“Thank you…thank you.”

“Happy Holidays” I said and stared into those stunning eyes, heavily lidded or not with age, you could not take away the beauty of that blue.

“Happy Holidays and Happy New Year.”

“Bye Betty!”

“Bye!”

And then she was off, pushing the cart, in a light drizzle.

The entire exchange took a good fifteen-twenty minutes from the moment I offered at the top of the subway platform, to the time we said goodbye.

This is the spirit of Christmas. This is the exact reminder I needed. This is what I had forgotten.

Turns out Betty was my “God send”. My “angel”.

My Christmas Angel.

Christmas in da’ hood

Posted in life on December 15, 2008 by prettylittlemess

Queen's side of Christmas